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Professional Matchmaking Services San Francisco Bay Area
Professional matchmaking is a high-stakes affair. People are vulnerable, some are desperate, others think that success will make it easier to find love. The truth is, there is a lot that goes on in the industry, much of which most people are oblivious to tactics used, hidden costs, realistic timelines, and hard truths associated with folks eager to meet their partners.
I have come across many folks who inquire about matchmakers in my line of work and it’s gotten more in demand the last few years given things like AI, making up for lost time with COVID, tired of dating apps, lack of friends, busy schedules, frustration with meeting folks offline, lack of hobbies or mindset that dating can be hacked or shortcuts exist for the right price.
Before you sign a contract, you may want to read this so you have a better understanding of what to expect, questions to ask and more.
San Francisco Bay Area Matchmaking Costs
San Francisco Bay Area matchmakers can be expensive. On the low end, you will find some start at around $3,000-$5,000, more specialized ones generally go for $10,000-$20,000 while others can easily go for 6 figures. Base packages can easily climb in price if you are super picky, have unrealistic expectations, need additional services (wardrobe overhaul, coaching skills, hygiene maintenance, cosmetic surgeries, etiquette bootcamps).
Professional Matchmaking Services - How Do They Work?
Most of the contracts are structured in terms of number of dates or even unlimited dates within a period of time. Most allow for a few deal-breakers, usually 3 i.e.
age range
ethnicity
religion
have kids, want kids, etc.
wealth status
height
weight
Even if you are not super picky, these deal-breakers can be a bit misleading or yield false positives for dates. If you want a man 40-45 who wants kids and makes a certain amount of money, are you ok if he has kids already, lives in Sacramento, is a different religion than you or is shorter than you? These are some of the gotchas people experience when getting set up on dates.
How about for men. Want a woman who is in her 30s, attractive and no kids? Sure, no problem, but did you bother to ask if she is a friend of the matchmaker or is going on an expensive date (you are paying for) but has no interest in you? Some matchmakers fill quotas through filler dates. One could make the argument that 1 date is better than no dates, or that these are good for practice but that is up to you on how you view the experience.
Some people in the dating pool are free members meaning they are used to keep a steady base of prospects (that is something all matchmakers need otherwise their services are rendered useless). Some may scour dating apps for prospects (possible some you swiped left on or maybe went on a date with)… who knows.
It’s important you ask the right questions but that can be tough if you don’t know what to ask.
Yelp vs Google Matchmaker Reviews San Francisco Bay Area
It’s important to look at professional matchmaking reviews beyond Google. Typically, reviews on Google are inflated.
Most people see the ratings on Google because of the way business listings are presented but if you search further (Yelp, Reddit), you will often see ratings that are much lower.
I get it, reviews should be taken with a grain of salt. They are often left by people who had unrealistic expectations (matchmakers can be really good salespeople, often using attractive women, charming men to get people to sign contracts asap).
For matchmaking companies with multiple locations (corporate-owned, franchises), if you are unable to find local reviews, look up reviews for other cities i.e. ‘matchmaking company los angeles yelp’ or ‘matchmaking service nyc reddit’ or even ‘matchmaking company lawsuit’.
Look at reviews by demographics - are the favorable reviews from younger women, older men with money?
Are there any filtered reviews on Yelp (go to the bottom and click ‘x other review(s) that is not currently recommended’.
Are there multiple Yelp listings? Some businesses try to delete their Yelp page only to have a new one created.
Did the company change it's name? Some businesses do this to hide bad press i.e. Comcast —> Xfinity anyone?
Are the people leaving reviews free members in the matchmaker’s database or someone who attended a free event to inflate ‘dating pool’ for client events or were they paying clients?
Should You Hire A Matchmaker San Francisco Bay Area?
There is non-zero chance it could work for you, there is also a non-zero chance that you could regret hiring them. Success rates vary wildly, given various factors including your demographics (age, height, ethnicity, politics, religion), your specific preferences (age range, looks, realistic expectations) and who happens to be available at any given time.
You should note that the things you may be looking for in a partner may not be the things they are looking at for themselves. Being educated and successful in careers may sound like a tremendous selling point but if people are successful themselves, they may not seek that in a partner. Similarly, people who are in high-demand typcically have options and can afford to be more selective, meaning you are competing with other people with similar backgrounds, success etc. The thing that will set you apart is likely personality, empathy, lifestyle choices, similar vibes etc. Don’t discount those in your search.
The threshold for going on a date is rather low, it’s a meal, a couple hours of time but when you assess things like where to live, whether to have kids, how many and when, politics, religion, and where to settle, your dating pool can shrink dramatically, especially if you treat dating like ordering food from an app. Dating takes time and effort as well as available time. If you are the type who doesn’t have time to date, what makes you think you have time for a relationship? Marriage?
Matchmakers are not magicians, but a good one can give you an honest layout of your situation, what to expect, highlight things that will make it difficult and what to work on. If a matchmaker is pushing you to sign a contract, guarantees matches, or uses vague promises, be careful.
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